40 weeks and counting

24 Jul

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A typical pregnancy last 40 weeks – nine full months. A typical adoption lasts a lot longer.

Case in point, 40 weeks ago today we had the first of three meetings with a social worker required for our home study. We had been working on an adoption plan for a long time before we even got to that point.

Here’s a look our timeline to date:

Summer of 2010 – Attended three open houses for local agencies that provide home study services.

Fall of 2010 – Bought our first home and selected our home study agency. Put further progress on hold as we began home renovation projects

Spring 2011 – Decide to begin working on adoption in July despite on-going renovation efforts

August 2011 – Met with adoption attorney to learn more about independent / parent-placed adoptions, met with Datz Foundation and started paperwork

September 30, 2011 – Submitted application and first round of paperwork to Datz Foundation

October 13, 2011 – Realize application was lost in the mail

October 14, 2011 – Resubmitted application electronically

October 21, 2011 – First home study interview

November 1, 2011 – Second home study interview

November 15, 2011 – Third and final home study interview

(and between September 30 and November 15, we did a whole bunch of other required tasks like getting fingerprinted, lining up our letters of reference, getting our state background checks, submitting to a FBI clearance and getting medical exams.)

November 19, 2011 – Attended American Adoptions open house in Northern Virginia

November 28, 2011 – Applied to American Adoptions, and began APQ process

November 30, 2011 – Home study draft received, and changes submitted

December 4, 2011 – Completed home study arrives in the mail

December 5, 2011 – Launched our independent adoption profile website and ordered adoption business cards (actually 4 x 6 photo prints)

January 2012 – Completed our APQ and began the process of planning our family profile

April 16, 2012 – Family profile completed

May 2, 2012 – Signed activation contract with American Adoptions and paid the hefty $10,000 activation fee

June 4, 2012 – Profile live on site and being shown to birth moms

July 2012 – Working on adoption video profile

July 12, 2012 – While on the phone about something else, adoption specialist mentions that our profile has been shown 24 times

July 24, 2012 – Wrote this post

So there you have it. It’s been two years since the day we went to our first adoption open house, about a year since we started getting serious about it and 40 weeks since we became actively engaged in the process. In short, long enough to have given birth to two children if that was the route we had decided to take.

Adoption is not easy. It takes a long time. It’s emotional. There is more paperwork than you can imagine. It’s expensive.

And it’s going to be worth every minute, every paper cut, every dollar and every tear.

5 Responses to “40 weeks and counting”

  1. Jessica Fillmore July 24, 2012 at 10:38 am #

    This post made me so hopeful for you guys. You are so prepared and some lucky baby is going to be yours soon. I just know it!

    Good luck!

    • susan July 24, 2012 at 10:42 am #

      Aww. Thanks, Jess.

  2. Heather July 24, 2012 at 2:28 pm #

    Even having gone through the process myself, it still blows my mind to see just. how. much. work. goes into adoption.

    You’re in the home stretch now! I can’t wait for the day when you’re playing on the living room floor with your little one, and you have a overwhelming feeling of gratefulness suddenly hit you out of nowhere. It’s the point when all the times you remind yourself that it’s worth the wait really hits home.

    • susan July 24, 2012 at 2:56 pm #

      Home stretch? I REALLY hope so, Heather. Thanks! My parents are visiting relatives outside the U.S. for two weeks so I keep expecting to get a match call any day for a baby just about to be born. ;-)

  3. Kirstin Hawthorne July 24, 2012 at 9:35 pm #

    I have a dear friend that would love to talk to you. She has two beautiful children that were adopted. Sending all my positive juju your way. When your baby comes he/she will be so loved!

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