Thought for the Week: September 30

30 Sep

The last two weeks have been very stressful for our family. On September 11, my cousin-in-law Garry passed away after a long fight with lung cancer. While I was attending his memorial service, I learned of the death of a dear young man named Sam, the son of my boss. And then last Saturday my friend Jeremy lost his battle with cancer after a vicious two and a half years.

I am full of sorrow for Garry’s wife and his grown children who now must face a future in which his physical presence is missing. I am bereft for my boss Susan who was the strongest defender and champion for her son and, as his father said during the memorial service, the best mother Sam could ever have had. My heart hurts for my friend Lynda who lost her love and the father of her almost three-year old son.

One day last week my friend Catherine posted a portion of the above prayer on her Facebook wall. It was well timed. Yes, these losses have brought me pain. But my pain cannot compare to the pain faced by my cousins, my boss and my friend. I can’t take away that pain – no matter how much I wish I could. And they should be allowed to feel that pain. Something really sad happened to each of them. So instead of wishing their pain would stop, I will hope that each of them has the heart to face their pain – to be sad, to be angry, to have joyful memories and to have happy futures.

To be fearless.

4 Responses to “Thought for the Week: September 30”

  1. Susan Smith September 30, 2012 at 9:19 am #

    Crying as I read this….because you are such a good friend.

    • susan October 1, 2012 at 4:38 pm #

      Oh – thank you. I feel like there is not enough I can so it’s nice to read this comment. *heart*

  2. suz October 8, 2012 at 2:58 pm #

    I am so, so sorry to hear about Jeremy! My heart goes out to all of these folks… I’m so sorry for the losses… and so close together.

    • susan October 9, 2012 at 8:53 am #

      Thanks, Suz. We’ve been pretty sad around these parts lately.

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