Happy days are here. We're nearly done with the materials needed for our family profile.
We finally finished the 24 essay questions for our adoption specialist at the placement agency we’ve chosen to work with and moved on to the task of creating our family profile.
We knew we’d need photos – lots of photos – but I don’t think either of expected the exact magnitude. I thought we’d need to mark 20-25 photos that we didn’t hate. Instead we were asked to provide at least 50. Mostly of us. Photos in which we both look good and aren’t too squinty (we’re both super, super squinty folk).
Yeah. 50 very specific photos. Our agency provided guidelines for us and I think these are pretty great guidelines regardless of what agency you decide work with (or if you decide to pursue and independent / parent-placed adoption).
- 8-10 Good, current photos of you and your spouse (and children, if applicable)
- 8-10 Close-up photos of just you and your spouse together
- 8-10 Holiday, vacation, fun photos
- 2-5 Photos of your home (be sure to include outside and inside photos)
- 2-5 Photos of a neighborhood park, pool, elementary school or other community space
- 2-4 Photos of extended family and/or friends
- 8-10 Photos of husband doing activities/hobbies
- 8-10 Photos of wife doing activities/hobbies
- 4-10 Hobby photos without people in them
- Additional miscellaneous photos
This took a lot longer than I expected, especially since they do not want photos more than three years old. I fudged that part a little bit since the last three years we’ve been really busy planning a wedding, getting married, looking for a house, moving and renovating it so we’ve had less time and money to travel to fun places and indulge in hobbies and leisure. Though, actually, if you know us at all, you’ll know that a lot of our leisure activities (like Nice Mirror and We Love DC) aren’t all that leisurely – just a different kind of work than our employers pay us to do.
At any rate, we finally got them together. Our final submission is 58 photos showing what a fun, happy, loving life we share with each other – and many of you. Oh, you want to see some? Well, I’m so glad you asked. Have at it.
We have fun wherever we go. We found a trunk of costumes and props at this visitor's center.
We stopped by the Public Market while visiting friends in Seattle.
A fair amount of our leisure time is spent making and selling mirrors like these at craft shows.
- Oh this? Nothing special. Just enjoying a nice night in DC.
Our friends' children always ask Don to juggle. It's a crowd pleaser.
When we go on vacation, Susan finds hikes and nature trails for us nearly every day. This may not have been one of her better ideas.
Both sides of our family at Mt. Vernon.
Dinner on the water with friends. Two of these lovely ladies were pregnant in the picture. Since this picture was taken in July, one baby has been born in the group and another is due in 3 weeks.
Don and our friend Sarah on the Merry-Go-Around
- Susan playing mini-golf with our friend Grace.
This is just a fraction of the 58 photos we provided. Head over to Flickr if you want to see the rest.
Here are some other photo tips that you might helpful when choosing your own images for an adoption profile. Remember when we said it was a lot like online dating
? We weren’t kidding.
Much like an online dating profile, these photos are really important. Sure, they show the birth family what you look like but, more importantly, they illustrate what your life is like. Everyone we’ve met in this process says you can’t under-estimate the importance of these photos. We know a couple whose birth mother said she picked them because she liked the hopeful dad’s sweater. Other birth moms have indicated they liked the adoptive mother’s hair, or the way the house was decorated, or their dog reminded her of a dog she had when she was kid. None of those things can come out in your written profile.
Here are some more helpful hints:
Take your camera with you wherever you go. Ask people to take your picture – friends, family, even strangers. Don and I are famous for our self portaits. We love them and they are very fun for us, but they don’t make the best photos. We didn’t include a single photo like that.
Make sure you can see your faces really well in MOST of the photos you include. This is tricky because you’re also trying to show the fun places you go and cool things you do.
Choose both portrait and landscape photos.
Avoid busy patterns and wear color … but not colors that are too bright (like neons)
Don’t go overboard on pictures of your wedding. One, maybe two.
Smile. Birth moms want to place into happy homes.
*I just realized we didn’t provide any photos of our wedding. Hmm. I loved our wedding and some of our pictures (like riding the old carousel in Ocean City, playing skee ball, posing in the photo booth and walking on the boardwalk) definitely show our fun and quirky sides, but I guess I felt like our every day lives were a better depiction of us.
Did you have to provide so many photos for your profile? Did Don and I miss any of your favorite photos? Should we have provided at least one wedding photo?